Whatever you’re going through, don’t go through it alone.
“No man is an island, entire of itself” (John Donne)
There is so much pressure these days to be independent and to manage everything on our own, but we are relational creatures: from the day we are conceived we learn and become who we are in relation to others, and I passionately believe that the way we grow and change as adults is also in relation.
Established research suggests that one of the most important factors in the success of any type of counselling or psychotherapy is the relationship between therapist and client. I will work with you to build a safe, trusting and challenging relationship that will allow you to explore your experience and way of relating (to me, and therefore to everyone else!)
Relational Integrative Therapy avoids labels and diagnoses. You are a unique human being, not a label, and together we will explore whatever issues, feelings or behaviours bring you to therapy in the context of how you have learned to relate to yourself and others.
“I am human: nothing human is alien to me.” (Terence)
The “integration” in Integrative Therapy refers to two things:
The first is the integration of all parts of the person, understanding how mind, body and emotions affect each other, and accepting all parts of yourself (especially the parts you may not like and have previously denied or hidden, respecting that they served a purpose in the past). This integration makes it possible to relate to yourself, others and the world in a fuller, more spontaneous and rewarding way.
The second is integration by the therapist of elements of the philosophy, theory and technique from different schools of therapy and other disciplines. The model of therapy I practise integrates attachment and developmental theory, the philosophy and theory of Gestalt therapy and some psychodynamic concepts.
“When I accept myself just as I am, then I can change” (Carl Rogers)
Central to Gestalt therapy is the idea that we can’t force change. Before change is possible we must first come to fully know and accept ourselves as we are now.
Whatever you’re struggling with in life, a strong, respectful therapeutic relationship can help you explore all aspects of your experience in a way you may not have felt able to before, bringing into awareness and integrating previously unknown or hidden parts of yourself.
Therapy isn’t a quick, easy fix, but if you are ready to put the time and work in it can help you come to know yourself more fully, to grow and change (if you want to) and to take this out into the world and your other relationships.